How to avoid depressing situations as a queer person in Nigeria

Depression in the leading cause of the high rate of suicide, and substance abuse in Nigeria, that is a huge problem to tackle for the country, now imagine being a gay, lesbian, or transgender person, having to live with the day to day horrors of being queer in a place where it is not accepted. Yeah, triple the effect. To survive from the scrutiny of the public eye, many LGBT folks have developed a sixth sense used specifically to observe and read a situation to determine how much they can safely be themselves. 

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“I am unapologetic and do not require your permission to be who I am” Bandy Kiki

On living free with Dan this month, Dan sat with Cameroonian celebrity, LGBT rights activist, social media consultant, founder of Kinnaka Business Group, and a proud unapologetic lesbian, Bandy Kiki, as she shares her story on coming out as a black lesbian woman, her ordeal with fibroid, the success of her myomectomy and her partnership with The Value Health Africa to create a successful awareness week on Fibroid and Cervical Cancer. Read more ““I am unapologetic and do not require your permission to be who I am” Bandy Kiki”

Intersex male – Roshaante Anderson launches campaign to promote body positivity.

We have by default, learnt to hide the things we don’t like about ourselves, body shape, vocal tone, notorious love handles under oversize T-shirt, the absent pinkie on your right hand that gets shoved in the pocket every time you feel eyes on you, or maybe it’s the slight tug of your jacket to hide the bulging chest or even smoothening out and tucking the junk below. All these are coping mechanism to this big event popularly known as life. Read more “Intersex male – Roshaante Anderson launches campaign to promote body positivity.”

“It’s hard being African and gay, here’s my story” – Gift Nwosu

For about a decade now I have been lying to myself, to everyone, to the world, and I’ve come to a moment of realization that putting up a facade for everyone to somewhat show interest in me was not the best way to go about my life. Read more ““It’s hard being African and gay, here’s my story” – Gift Nwosu”

Gay people might be ‘different’, but definitely not flawed

In the early days, homosexuality was categorized as a mental illness, specifically a sexual disorder, DSM-II (the American classification of mental disorders) in 1968 listed homosexuality as a mental disorder. In this, the DSM followed in a long tradition in medicine and psychiatry, which in the 19th century appropriated homosexuality from the Church and, in the style of enlightenment, transformed it from sin to mental disorder, then to a sexual orientation disturbance before it was finally scrapped off 19 years after. It is now said to simply be a diversity in sexual behaviors, or a form of sexual expression. Read more “Gay people might be ‘different’, but definitely not flawed”

Jussie’s attack mirrors a glimpse of similar anti-LGBTIQ+ brutality in Africa

The ‘Empire’ star, Jussie Smollett, a black, openly gay actor was hospitalized after encountering a possible homophobic assault at the early hours of Tuesday, January 29, 2019. Smollett was said to have been walking when he was attacked by two people “yelling out racial, and homophobic slurs, poured an unknown chemical substance on him and then concluded by wrapping a rope around his neck” Chicago police department has neither confirmed the gender of the offenders, nor identified the chemical substance. Jussie found his way to North-western Hospital where he was cared for and discharged. Chicago police are calling it a possible hate crime and all investigations are being carried out.

Jussie Smollet

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Who can you talk to about your sexuality?

Hail Africa. Hail our great country Nigeria, where culture, religion, and traditions have taken the space of authenticity in an individual lives, where the society has managed to label everyone as heterosexual and to be different (Gay, Lesbian, bisexual, etc.) is perceived as abnormal and wrong.

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